Theta Mom?

My friend April from High School tagged me a Theta Mom, and I wasn't sure what it meant, until now... on the Theta Mom website, the following statement was made:

What makes you a Theta Mom?

Our own mothers and grandmothers didn’t live in a time when issues and topics, especially regarding motherhood, were easily discussed. They also didn’t have many choices. Today, women have so many opportunities, including the power to be heard. So, start talking! We need to get real about motherhood and speak authentically because that is the real essence of a Theta Mom.

Here are some things to consider:What surprised you about motherhood? What didn’t you expect? What do you wish someone would have told you about motherhood or pregnancy? What would you share with a mommy-to-be right now? If you could write a book, what aspect of motherhood would you focus on? Why? What does it mean (to you) to be truly authentic? What have you discovered about yourself as a mother? What has changed in your life since motherhood? What hasn’t changed? What stages of motherhood have been the most difficult? Why? What aspects of motherhood have been the most special and/or rewarding? What do you want out of motherhood? What are your own hopes and fears about motherhood?

Generally when you are tagged, you are supposed to write about 5 things that make you authentic. But instead, I am going to try to answer all of the above questions. TRY!

What surprised you about motherhood? and What didn’t you expect?

Really what surprised me... maybe how much I would actually love it! I always loved working, weird I know, but the idea about working, was cool. I knew I would have kids, and I knew that I wanted to work, until... I was laid off over 5 years ago and became a Stay At Home Mom. What a opportunity and a blessing. Who knew motherhood would have it's ups and downs and all the in between. I absolutely love being a SAHM!

What do you wish someone would have told you about motherhood or pregnancy?

I'm not sure I wish someone would have told me anything. I don't remember talking about this with my mom. I do know that each of my kids have been different from each other, and each pregnancy with each one was different too. I know that it's different for everyone, so even if someone told me how it was for them, it might not have mattered because it probably would be different for me.

What would you share with a mommy-to-be right now?

What a blessing children are and how fast they grown up. I always do tell my new mom's to be friends to make sure they take pictures every month of their baby, they change so much, and it is so much fun to have the pictures to show how much they have changed.

Right now for all those mommies to be though, I get a little jealous. lol. I want so bad to have another baby, but it was so hard to get pregnant with Chloe, I'm not sure my old women body will let me have another. lol. Nothing wrong with trying right. ;)

If you could write a book, what aspect of motherhood would you focus on? Why?

Right, me write a book, I hardly even read. rofl. I'm not sure what I would focus on. I do know that I'm very impressed with all those mom's out there who home school their children. I think it's hard enough when they come home with loads of school work, yet to actually do the teaching and helping with homework, wow, I am impressed. Random though I know.

What does it mean (to you) to be truly authentic?

I know my kids so well. Being able to be home each day with them I have learned to identify queues in their behavior and I can know from those little queues how our day is going to turn out. I can tell if Brayden is going to be good Brayden or I want to tackle him Brayden. I can tell if Madison is going to be my sweet Madi or if she is going to cause horror and problems in the home. I can tell if Chloe is going to be my little doll or if she is going to need more mom and her time than usual.

What have you discovered about yourself as a mother?

There there is always room to improve. I may not be the most patient mom, I may not be as fun as my sister, I may not be the best dressed or even the most healthy mom. BUT, I know whats right for MY kids, I know how I want them to turn out, and I will do my best to keep them heading in the right direction.

Because of this, Brayden has only chosen good friends, he doesn't play M rated games, he doesn't say things he shouldn't, and he wants to go on a mission.

Because of this, Madison has so much love for one little girl. She is bothered when she hears her kids in school say things against the church, and she wants to go to the temple to get married.

Because of this, Chloe is quick to change her way, she loves to help, and she wants to help all the time. If she whines or cries, which she seldom does, I can say, Chloe, you need to smile, and be happy, and she does. She is so ... Chloe. (for those who know her, lol.)

What has changed in your life since motherhood?

I'm a better person. I attend church regularly, I follow the prophet, I lead by example.

Honestly though, this just isn't because of my kids, or because of having kids, but because I choose the perfect person to marry!

What hasn’t changed?

I still like to have fun. I still have to go out with my girlfriends and play.

What stages of motherhood have been the most difficult? Why?

I don't know if there has been a particular stage that has been difficult, but I know that I am constantly worried about them growing up. I am worried about what obstacles they will face, and how they will handle them.

What aspects of motherhood have been the most special and/or rewarding?

Even though watching them grow up and being worried about the obstacles they will face, it has also been so rewarding too.

Watching them accomplish milestones, learning to read and write, singing, drawing, playing the piano, going to Boy Scouts, getting baptised, going to Preschool, then Kindergarten then First Grade, etc..., seeing the changes in their cute faces, getting taller... they grow up so quickly.

What do you want out of motherhood? and What are your own hopes and fears about motherhood?

A friendship with my children like I have with my mom. A tight bonding relationship that I hope will last forever!

I don't have any fears about motherhood, I know we will always have a great relationship!


So, now I am to tag 5 friends... you can either just answer 5 things that make you authentic, or do what you like.

I tag: Brooke, Bobbie, Deana, Jody & Renee. Good luck!